The Well-being Word
June 10, 2022
June is Pride Month, a time when we celebrate and honor the achievements and history of the LGBTQIA+ community! Washington University and the Department of Anesthesiology strive to be strong allies of the LGBTQIA+ community!
There are many ways that we can all take action to offer our support, acceptance, and affirmation toward the LGBTQIA+ individuals in our lives—one way we can do that is with our words and actions.
This month I would like to discuss pronouns and why they are so important for the well-being of our transgender and non-binary colleagues. Proper pronoun and chosen name use is one critical piece that has been proven to directly benefit the health and well-being of these individuals. Proper pronoun use creates inclusive spaces for LGBTQIA+ community members, which in turn improves mental health and one’s sense of belonging.
Understanding pronouns beyond the two options of she, her, hers and he, him, his creates space for experiences and identities outside of the gender binary. In order to affirm each person’s gender identity, life, and experience, it is important that we ask and check-in with others about pronouns.
There are many ways to be an ally for TGNB individuals! These include actions such as sharing your own personal pronouns, asking for a person’s pronouns if you don’t know them, correcting yourself if you make a mistake, and practicing and using gender-neutral pronouns in everyday speech.
I encourage you to take some time to learn more, and take steps to be an ally: add your pronouns to your email signature, locate on EPIC where a person’s pronouns can be found, and whether they prefer an alternate name (just hover over their bio photo), and read more about what to do if you use the incorrect pronouns. These are simple steps we can all take to make our department a safe and accepting place for all to thrive!
There are so many fantastic resources to learn more about pronouns and their importance—here are two:
Yours in wellness,
Erin
Upcoming Events
Anesthesia Adventure Ride
Saturday, June 11, 2022
9:30 a.m.
Meet at Good News Brewing in Defiance, MO.
It’s time for our spring/early Summer unofficial anesthesiology bike ride! Let’s head West to do some gravel/Katy trail/adventure riding.
PrideFest
June 25 and 26, 2022
Downtown STL
You’re invited to join the OUTmed group during the Grand Pride Parade and/or volunteer at a booth designed to provide mental health resources for LGBTQIA+ individuals.
A Day in the Life of Randall Stateler
Randall Stateler was recently promoted to Director of Business Operations! Congratulations, Randall! Read Randall’s “Day in the Life” to learn more about what his new role entails.
5:15am: My alarm goes off. If I slept through the night, there is a 50% chance that I am about to be startled as I realize either our 2-year-old (Bodie) or 4-year-old (Sophie) is sleeping 2 inches from my face. I sneak out of bed and mold my pillow in a way that makes it seem I am still next to them. This is a desperate attempt to have some quiet time before the typical morning chaos ensues. I walk out of the room shaking my head and wondering how I did not notice them sneaking in bed in the middle of the night.
There is a good chance my wife (Jenny) is already walking our dog (Lola.) I walk to the kitchen only to realize she has once again beat me to the satisfying act of pushing the ON button on the coffeemaker. I briefly glance at my phone/email/calendar to see if anything needs early attention or for a reminder of early meetings.
5:20am: While I wait for Jenny to finish walking Lola, I realize the dishwasher is clean. I race to empty it before she gets back. Once she walks in, I smile next to the empty dishwasher and ask her if I can go on a run before the kids wake up. She always agrees even though she knows there is a high likelihood that Sophie and Bodie will wake up and ask for one thousand things while she is nursing our 9-month-old (Remi.)
5:30am: I rush out the door to start my run before the kids wake up. I have Lola with me if she didn’t get a walk yet. I’m probably listening to Nathaniel Rateliff & The Night Sweats or some completely random playlist during my run. As my run ends and I get closer to the house, I laugh to myself while imagining what chaos I might walk into.
6:10am: I walk into the house to see Bodie pouring his milk into Lola’s dog food bowl and then dumping it all over the laundry room floor. I chase him as he runs away. He
“helps” me clean it up and begrudgingly says sorry to Lola. Jenny and I work together to get the kids dressed and started on breakfast. I jump in the shower.
6:45am: I’m dressed, ready, and jump on the morning huddle. I try to listen in most days to get a feel for what’s happening in our clinical areas at BJH. Our scheduling and clinical teams regularly amaze me with how they collaborate and overcome any obstacle.
7:00-7:15am: If it’s a Tuesday or Thursday, I’m probably on kid drop-off duty. I herd the kids into the car and drop them off at daycare/preschool on my way to campus.
7:45-8:00am: I’m in my office and sip coffee as I scan my Outlook email/calendar and Microsoft To-Do. I field emails, make a quick phone call or two, and say hello to anyone in Peters office suite before my 8:30am meeting.
8:30-9:00am: Zoom meeting with Lisa Parks and Lawrence Cross to catch up about any priority items, review current status of office space needs for upcoming fiscal year, and check in with how everyone on the team is doing. Lawrence and Lisa run the show for the South administration and clinical operations teams. They are amazing! I consider myself lucky that I get to work with passionate and dedicated leaders like them.
9:00-10:00am: Zoom meeting with Mary Sommer, Jean Shim, and Amy Stabenow to review a tableau report we have been collaborating on. The meeting is very productive and I am excited about the value the report should bring to the scheduling, clinical, and operations leaders!
9:00-10:00am: Zoom meeting with Mary Sommer, Jean Shim, and Amy Stabenow to review a tableau report we have been collaborating on. The meeting is very productive and I am excited about the value the report should bring to the scheduling, clinical, and operations leaders!
10:00-11:00am: One on One meeting with the talented Mr. Nicholas Wiscons: (AKA my boss who is about to take an exciting role with WUSTL Orthopedic Surgery).
11:00am I take a quick lap through both floors of Peters to say hi to anyone on the team and attempt to catch a clinical leader in passing for a quick conversation. I refill my Nalgene with water (I feel lost without it) and head back to my office. I work on a few of my to-do list items and remind myself to allow time for lunch before my 1pm.
12:40pm: I was in the zone with a priority task and/or valuable conversation and now realize I have little time to eat before my next meeting. I rush out of my office and convince myself I still have enough time to take the long way through the link on my way to the cafeteria. I grab a turkey sandwich and/or a salad and get back before my 1:00pm.
1:00-2:00pm: WUDA GI Meeting with Amy Stabenow, Lawrence Cross, Audrey Vincent, Dr. Ivan Kangrga, Dr. Jason Gillihan, Dr. Bhavi Mehta, and Dr. Selma Ishag. I convinced them to smile for a screenshot!
2:00-3:00pm: Work though more of my to-do list and prepare for my next meeting.
3:00-4:00pm: Zoom meeting with Drs. TJ Graetz and Tracey Stevens to discuss some CT related items we are collaborating on. We stay on task but have fun in our meetings.
4:00-4:40pm: I harass Corrin Noel in a Microsoft Teams chat until she agrees to talk “briefly” with me about a finance-related question I have. She knows it’s likely a trap and probably not “brief” but is always so helpful. She’s a wealth of knowledge so I try to capitalize on the fact that I have her on the phone.
4:40-5:10pm: I finish up a few emails and collect my thoughts and notes from the meetings/conversations of the day. I review my calendar for the rest of the week, update Microsoft To-Do, and ensure that I am set up for success for the next day’s meetings/tasks.
5:35pm: I return home to Sophie and Bodie playing in the backyard while Jenny (and Remi) are preparing dinner (a few days each week I do pick up and get dinner ready.) I change clothes and rush out to the backyard to discover that Bodie now has the water hose and is trying to spray Sophie who is cornered on the top of our playground. I defuse the situation and we play for a bit before Jenny tells us dinner is ready. I get the kids inside but can’t help that on my way in I saw exactly three weeds coming up in the lawn. I can’t resist and run to pull them out of the grass. Sophie and Bodie see me back outside and run back out. It takes me another five minutes to get them back inside. We eat dinner as a family which is always entertaining with three kids that are four and under. If there is time before bedtime, we go for a walk, ride bikes, or play games.
7:00-8:00pm Bath and bedtime routine. Some nights this takes till 8:30pm or later.
8:00-10:00pm Finish cleaning up dinner, pack bottles, lunches, etc, for the next morning. During the week, this is some of the only time Jenny and I get a chance to talk, make plans, watch TV, or just sit on the couch in silence.
If we are watching TV: Jenny has probably disagreed with every show/movie/documentary suggestion I have offered and convinced me to watch something else only to fall asleep within 5 minutes 99% of the time. 🙂
Around 10:00-10:30pm we are hopefully in bed and I’m probably attempting to read more than 3 pages of something before I fall asleep. Occasionally, its 11:00pm, 11:30pm, or later.
Tuition Benefit Planning Resource
We just launched a Tuition Benefit Planning Tool for your use! Be sure to check out this resource if you or your dependents are interested in taking classes at WashU. This resource can be found by visiting the link below or navigating to our Intranet page and clicking “Tuition Benefit Model.”
Mindful Listening in a Diverse Workplace
Want to be a more understanding teammate? Practice better listening
Creating a more inclusive workplace starts with you. You can use Calm, our partner in mental well-being, as part of your personal practice of doing the inner work required to understand yourself, including your identity, bias, and privilege, and be more understanding of others around you. To practice being a better listener, colleague, neighbor, and friend, try these resources:
- Meditate on your Relationship with Self and Relationship with Others
- Practice Mindful Listening and learn how to apply this mindset at work
- Pause tendencies to categorize or dismiss others with this Non-Judgment meditation